http://qualiabared.wordpress.com naked is a state of mind Sun, 13 Sep 2009 05:06:29 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ http://s2.wp.com/i/buttonw-com.png http://qualiabared.wordpress.com http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2009/07/03/sleepblogging/ http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2009/07/03/sleepblogging/#comments Fri, 03 Jul 2009 01:43:19 +0000 froscha http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/?p=76 ]]> http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2009/07/03/sleepblogging/feed/ 1 froscha http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2009/06/28/the-distance-factor/ http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2009/06/28/the-distance-factor/#comments Sun, 28 Jun 2009 04:14:49 +0000 froscha http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/?p=64 Could I cope yet if they got engaged? That summer, there were many startling coincidences between my thought and his movement. This one: within 24 hours of putting that question to myself, he had updated his profile on Facebook indicating that he was indeed engaged. Even as someone was saying "Yes," my answer turned out to be "No." I grieved harder than I had even over my dad's death — I forgive myself for this on the basis that it had been anticipated and he had been relieved of great suffering and anxiety — nor did the intensity abate for days. I remembered that scene in Sex In The City when Carrie vomits almost immediately upon learning that Mr. Big is engaged. Though I did not puke my feelings, I suddenly grasped the mind's assault on the body when it is shocked by this kind of news. Kind of like when you think you're over someone but then you see their name somewhere and your heart is instantly in your throat. It's like that, magnified.]]> http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2009/06/28/the-distance-factor/feed/ 2 froscha http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2009/03/11/almost-over-it/ http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2009/03/11/almost-over-it/#comments Wed, 11 Mar 2009 05:24:30 +0000 froscha http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/?p=48 ]]> http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2009/03/11/almost-over-it/feed/ 6 froscha http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2008/12/09/my-names-not-mary-but/ http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2008/12/09/my-names-not-mary-but/#comments Tue, 09 Dec 2008 06:00:03 +0000 froscha http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2008/12/09/my-names-not-mary-but/ ]]> http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2008/12/09/my-names-not-mary-but/feed/ 1 froscha http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2008/10/13/review-not-lest-ye-be-reviewed/ http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2008/10/13/review-not-lest-ye-be-reviewed/#comments Mon, 13 Oct 2008 19:27:00 +0000 froscha http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2008/10/13/review-not-lest-ye-be-reviewed/ ]]> http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2008/10/13/review-not-lest-ye-be-reviewed/feed/ 0 froscha http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2008/09/12/you-cant-spell-freud-without-feud-but-you-can-have-scientology-without-science/ http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2008/09/12/you-cant-spell-freud-without-feud-but-you-can-have-scientology-without-science/#comments Fri, 12 Sep 2008 03:11:00 +0000 froscha http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2008/09/12/you-cant-spell-freud-without-feud-but-you-can-have-scientology-without-science/ ]]> http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2008/09/12/you-cant-spell-freud-without-feud-but-you-can-have-scientology-without-science/feed/ 4 froscha http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2008/01/16/web-201/ http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2008/01/16/web-201/#comments Wed, 16 Jan 2008 22:26:00 +0000 froscha http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2008/01/16/web-201/ ]]> http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2008/01/16/web-201/feed/ 0 froscha http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2007/12/28/hard-to-know-if-he-knows/ http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2007/12/28/hard-to-know-if-he-knows/#comments Fri, 28 Dec 2007 00:51:00 +0000 froscha http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2007/12/28/hard-to-know-if-he-knows/ ]]> http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2007/12/28/hard-to-know-if-he-knows/feed/ 0 froscha http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2007/08/09/sometimes-i-just-know-too-much/ http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2007/08/09/sometimes-i-just-know-too-much/#comments Thu, 09 Aug 2007 03:29:00 +0000 froscha http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2007/08/09/sometimes-i-just-know-too-much/ ]]> http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2007/08/09/sometimes-i-just-know-too-much/feed/ 0 froscha http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2007/06/01/not-a-final-testament/ http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2007/06/01/not-a-final-testament/#comments Fri, 01 Jun 2007 23:32:00 +0000 froscha http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2007/06/01/not-a-final-testament/ Thou art a little bitch but also a wonderful, beloved daughter. Thou shalt be a disappointment unto thine boyfriends, and yet, when they leave, how could they value you not? Thou needeth to lose weight; thou art already beautiful — but thy beauty shall be more apparent with the loss of weight. Verily, I say unto you that you shall fail; despair not but believe in the power of positive thinking. You are cared for, yet tho ye ask for help paying thy medical bills, thou shalt not receive such unless thou hast made an exodus home to stay. It goes on and on like a genealogy log in Genesis, while I await the mercy of a younger authority with a new testament. I suspect the majority of people who are products of a troubled childhood have children of their own in order to make the connection of unconditional love that was missing in their own family and to create a unsullied new chapter in the story cycle already produced by generations of dysfunction. So not a sufficient reason, by the way. Since I’ve decided to buck the trend, I will have to be my own younger authority and write my own testament.]]> http://qualiabared.wordpress.com/2007/06/01/not-a-final-testament/feed/ 0 froscha